Buy cornies and equipment, then say the brew is your wedding gift. Throw in a card. Get everyone toasted at the reception and load up the empty cornies when you leave. Say you'll brew up a batch for the one year annyversary
Well, whatever you choose come up with an estimate of whatever ingredient per ur batch and divide by 4. A little goes along way with spices and such. Plus better to have a hint of something than over whelmed.
Beer wants to be beer. I would read the biggest mistake you made while brewing thread on hear. It is not only funny but has dozens of examples of horrible scenarios or events that still wound up with decent brew.
Franciscan monks gave up everything else except beer for lent. They also lived off the land and donations with a bunch of other dudes in dark monasteries but at least they had priorities.