being a beginner myself with 2 done and 1 awaiting, let me reiterate the advice that is giving everywhere by everyone. GIVE IT TIME. Don't panic. If your directions state to give it 3 weeks to condition in the bottle, then give it NO LESS than 3 weeks. YES, 2 weeks and 4 days will be different. That extra 3 days makes a world of difference, so imagine what another week, or 2, or 3,etc will do!!I didn't believe that a few more days would make a noticeable difference, maybe a minute one, but i was wrong- flavors balance and meld, off tastes (sour, alcohol, etc) tend to dissipate, and carbonation tends to perfect itself. Both my AHBS kits- Rogue Skaespeare and Franziskaner Clone made a huge turn after just giving it the allotted time- from being pretty good or a few off tastes- to being DAMN good! It's hard to imagine what another week or 2 would do, i hope they last that long.
Now i've learned, the IPA i have is sitting in the primary and secondary nearly 2x as long as i left the 1st two i did....and i'll leave them in the bottle longer also.
Take this advice from a beginner who knows the trepidation and concern you have after trying one and thinking, "Oh, Sh#t!!"....this is why all the guys say RDWHAHB,and GIVE IT TIME!!!
Alcohol may be man's worst enemy, but the bible says love your enemy.