I skim the early break off - always have..... Not sure why to be honest - I think I read it somewhere 15 years+ ago and just got in the habit
My beer does end up very clear at the end (and I am one of those who does not use secondary, just 3 weeks in primary), so perhaps there is something to the clarity aspect.
As for the FWH - I know what you are saying. To be honest, I have kind of gotten away from FWH. One reason is this skimming issue and what you are saying. Another reason is I never felt like my hot break happened as well, and felt like I was ending up with cloudy beer. Third reason - I really could not tell much of a significant difference on the hop flavor anyway.
I like to bring to a rolling boil, skimming as needed. Let it go for about 5-10 minutes to get a good break. Then I start with my hop additions.
If you want to FWH and skim and feel you are losing something on the hops..... just add .25 or .5 ounces extra to make up for what you might lose.