A lot of the bitterness from darker barleys comes from burnt husks. Wheat and rye are huskless, so they have no burnt husks, and therefore greatly reduced bitterness. Briess has a midnight wheat that's used to add color without much flavor. If you want the bitterness, you'd need black patent, roasted barley etc, unless maybe you wanted to roast some rice hulls.
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