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Old 03-06-2012, 04:16 AM   #21
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:40 AM   #22
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I am usually "able" to brew once a month. We brew at my buddy's place, although next year (August) I am moving out to suburbia where we will brew as we will have more room, so perhaps these aspects of how to keep the Mrs. happy while brewing will shift.

1. Start early - a 8am or 9am start time works best as we will be done by 2pm at the latest.
2. Take the boy with me. Although now that he is mobile, we try to have one of my buddy's girlfriends over so they can keep play with him.
3. Suggest that she go and get her nails done and have lunch with her friends.
4. Don't come home drunk.


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Old 03-06-2012, 04:50 AM   #23
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I am usually "able" to brew once a month. We brew at my buddy's place, although next year (August) I am moving out to suburbia where we will brew as we will have more room, so perhaps these aspects of how to keep the Mrs. happy while brewing will shift.

1. Start early - a 8am or 9am start time works best as we will be done by 2pm at the latest.
2. Take the boy with me. Although now that he is mobile, we try to have one of my buddy's girlfriends over so they can keep play with him.
3. Suggest that she go and get her nails done and have lunch with her friends.
4. Don't come home drunk.
Number 4... live by that, going out and having fun with friends is one thing. Don't make it into a boozefest... come home, give her loves and pay attention to her.
With that being said, I asked her if I could brew this weekend, she said yes. So I spent the last half hour making the kitchen spotless. Basically, just don't forget about her
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Old 03-06-2012, 05:40 AM   #24
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My girlfriend views me brewing as my unwinding time, and when our schedules allow, we do it together, so there's no real conflict, so long as I clean up afterwards. Then again, she works a full-time job and is going to grad school as well, and I work a 65-80 hour week, so things are probably a bit different for us.
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Old 03-06-2012, 05:46 AM   #25
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I always point out that the kitchen is cleaner after I brew than it ever otherwise is. Sanitized too.

She enjoys the beer as much as I do.

Make beer that she likes too.

Point out that at least you're home and not out drinking, and likely to stay home to drink your own beer.

Get her drunk too.
+1 for making the kitchen/house cleaner than before you start. Also for my SWMBO it is important to give a realistic time when I will be done. She doesn't care at all unless I say I am going to be done at 6 and then 9:30 I am still finishing up.
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Old 03-06-2012, 05:56 AM   #26
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From my wife:

Don't expect her to clean up.
Take on a teaching role; more interesting if she knows what is going on.
Be patient.
Make beers she enjoys.
Let her experiment with beer, even if it is something you don't think will work. If she says "Hey, I would like us to make something that had these notes" then do it. She will feel really appreciated and part of the real brewing process, rather than someone to just stir grain.

Do you have friends that are married? Have them over for a brew day. Brew with the husband if the wife's are not into it, make it a fun afternoon, and brewing will become part of a social fun day, a play-date as it were.
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Old 03-06-2012, 05:57 AM   #27
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+1 for making the kitchen/house cleaner than before you start.
You aren't married to an Italian woman.Suggesting that the kitchen is cleaner when I am done brewing ,and is more clean than how she keeps it during cooking, is an invitation to disaster.And most likely will get me an offer to clean the toilets, since I am so great at cleaning.. What I do is not leave a mess. I respect her kitchen .Then again I find that a woman with great culinary skills loves the smell of Barley in the morning.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:20 PM   #28
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You aren't married to an Italian woman.Suggesting that the kitchen is cleaner when I am done brewing ,and is more clean than how she keeps it during cooking, is an invitation to disaster.And most likely will get me an offer to clean the toilets, since I am so great at cleaning.. What I do is not leave a mess. I respect her kitchen .Then again I find that a woman with great culinary skills loves the smell of Barley in the morning.
This is great advice! While I'm not an Italian woman, I find that my husband does respect our kitchen (at least my need for a clean kitchen.) But I have the problem of having a husband that strongly dislikes beer so that makes me the brewer. One way I keep him happy is to have 3 or 4 different styles of beer in the frig when the gang comes over for game night. He listens to the feedback they give and offers suggestions like "when are you going to brew that <insert style here> again that everyone liked so much." And he will discuss my recipe ideas with me. He prefers to stay out of my way when I brew but is glad to help me lift or carry the full fermenter whereever it needs to go. He is never out of gift ideas for me either. It seems I always need something else to make my brewing process more efficient.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:30 PM   #29
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You all sound like a bunch of great guys, very thoughtful and your SWMBOs sound like great ladies as well. Congratulations to you all
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Always brew something she likes. My wife rarely ever had a beer until I found a vanilla porter or a nice roasty coffee stout. And lets not forget about a nice mead like raspberry or cinnamon vanilla. You know something to get them trashed before they realize it.


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