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Old 07-09-2011, 09:18 PM   #1
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Default Well, this is gonna suck...

Well, this isn't beer related and to most it is probably boring, but I've been drinking homebrew and this forum seems as appropriate as any.

So, there's this girl...we got together about 5 months ago. So far, everything has been great. She's wild about me and is unlike anyone I've ever been with. I'm 21 and she's 24. I know I'm young, but this isn't my first relationship. I know this is something different than the ones I've had in the past. What's the problem then, you ask.

She has to leave the country in a couple of months for at least a year. You see, she is Korean and here on a visa. I like her, maybe even love her (but I try not to admit this to myself), but I can't quit school with just a year to go to follow her. And as much as she wants to stay she can't.

So, I'm in a weird position. I'm in a great relationship, never been this happy, but it has a deadline. It's like knowing the date of your death and it SUCKS. I try to just go day by day, but as it gets closer it becomes harder to ignore. Kind of a bummer, right?

Anyway, I just wanted to vent. I don't particularly expect to gain anything from your comments, but feel free to give advice, to criticize, or just laugh. Hope I didn't bore anyone too much...and cheers
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Old 07-09-2011, 09:37 PM   #2
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Awwww man.... Punch-Buggy Depressing!

That does super suck. Have you considered the long distance thing? If you really love her you could make it work... not saying that it WOULD work, but it CAN. Finish school and then go to her. I think if she feels the same way abot you she would be down for trying it.

But then again I'm a hopeless romantic.
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Old 07-09-2011, 09:44 PM   #3
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Awwww man.... Punch-Buggy Depressing!

That does super suck. Have you considered the long distance thing? If you really love her you could make it work... not saying that it WOULD work, but it CAN. Finish school and then go to her. I think if she feels the same way abot you she would be down for trying it.

But then again I'm a hopeless romantic.
A year ain't that bad. I actually STARTED dating my wife long distance (i know, how stupid, right?) and we did it for about a year, then she moved down here.
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I would try the long distance thing. If it's meant to be then it will work out. And you may find out otherwise, and that will be fine too.
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Old 07-09-2011, 11:14 PM   #5
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Dude, Go for the long distance thing...a couple trips to Korea throughout the year and that year would go by like you wouldn't believe. Military types go through year long stints all the time. If she's worth the effort go for it.
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Old 07-09-2011, 11:32 PM   #6
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Long distance it....and don't quit school!! If this is someone you're truly meant to be with, you'll want a great job which can support her...finishing college will certainly help!!!
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When My wife and I were dating I was living in Ohio and she was living in Arizona. We dated for 1 1/2 years and next week will be 4 years since we married.

Things are going great too. I think I've only punched her in the face 3 times!
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I'll +1 the long distance thing. SWMBO & I started dating the summer after she graduated from high school and she went away to school about 3 hours away... I know its nothing compared to Korea, but it still sucked not seeing her everyday. We made it work for a year after which she moved back and went to school local. Our 14 year wedding anniversary (16 years together) is in a couple of weeks. You just have to do what feels right for both of you.
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Things are going great too. I think I've only punched her in the face 3 times!
This does sound like a dream relationship! How do you keep the magic alive?
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Yep, it might suck at times, but it's a good test of the relationship; besides, it'll give you a good reason to visit South Korea sometime during that year, thus proving to her (and her family) your interest in her for the long term.

Finish school, test the relationship, visit an exotic country & have a guide that really knows what to avoid & has a vested interest in your well being, then come back the the good ol' USA with her & see what happens. That's my 2 cent's worth. Regards, GF.
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