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Old 09-14-2010, 11:35 AM   #11
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Well, the kid was wrong for taking beer that wasn't his.

But come on, you were asked to bring the beer into the house and your wife got chewed out for it. All you had to do was bring the beer in. I'm sure you guys knew that the neighbors don't keep their kid on a leash! You knew he wandered the streets looking for alcohol at night! Dammit you KNEW it was YOUR JOB to watch the neighbors kid for them! And you blew it.

 
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Old 09-14-2010, 11:54 AM   #12
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In my eyes, there are two issues here:

1) Yes, you should have brought in the beer when your wife asked. That's a little thing.

2) You are absolutley and in no way responsible for the actions of a kid who doesn't respect boundaries and is old enough to know better.

True, leaving the beer out gave him an opportunity. However, he would have found a way to do something wrong anyhow.

You should apologise to your wife for not doing as she asked. It's not about her being the boss; it's about a cooperative and peaceful marriage.

You should tell the neighbor that you don't take any responsibility for the theft of a perfectly legal substance on your property.

Your wife should be able to discern the difference here.
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Old 09-14-2010, 12:01 PM   #13
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It's not your job to child proof the neighborhood.

You don't have to take responsibility for smoothing things over, but you're probably the only one who will. Let things cool off for a day or two, and see if you can have a calm, rational conversation with one or both of the gals.
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Old 09-14-2010, 12:12 PM   #14
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Yeah, I honstly feel only a little bad over the situation. I've already banned the girl's deranged boyfriend from my home, looks like some of his psychosis is rubbing off on her. I'm sure telling my wife that I don't want her friend in my home will set off another powder keg...... oh well.
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Old 09-14-2010, 12:13 PM   #15
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You don't have to take responsibility for smoothing things over, but you're probably the only one who will.
That's the burden of a peacemaker.
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Old 09-14-2010, 12:38 PM   #16
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Your neighbor isn't mad at your wife, she's mad/disappointed with her son. Your wife isn't really mad at you, she's mad/disappointed with her friend's reaction toward her. I think this is called kick the dog complex, but since I'm a dog lover, I recommend you go kick the neighbor's boyfriend out of frustration with your wife. At some point it could get back to the kid which is the root of the problem. I hope this helps.
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Carrot- Very true, I do feel bad for the kid too. There isn't any descent role model in his life or anyone imposing limits on his delinquent behavior.
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Old 09-14-2010, 01:46 PM   #18
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You'd be in more trouble with her if you'd have shot the kid while he was trespassing and stealing from you...

But, if you're wife is anything like mine, even being right in the biggest sense of the word doesn't manage to trump the wrong of not listening to her the first time, which could have prevented you being right. I suggest letting her cool off and then forget about it. You can always win the argument later if she won't let it die...

 
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Old 09-14-2010, 01:48 PM   #19
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Your neighbor isn't mad at your wife, she's mad/disappointed with her son. Your wife isn't really mad at you, she's mad/disappointed with her friend's reaction toward her. I think this is called kick the dog complex, but since I'm a dog lover, I recommend you go kick the neighbor's boyfriend out of frustration with your wife. At some point it could get back to the kid which is the root of the problem. I hope this helps.
Haha. Ain't that the truth.

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In my eyes, there are two issues here:

1) Yes, you should have brought in the beer when your wife asked. That's a little thing.

2) You are absolutley and in no way responsible for the actions of a kid who doesn't respect boundaries and is old enough to know better.

True, leaving the beer out gave him an opportunity. However, he would have found a way to do something wrong anyhow.

You should apologise to your wife for not doing as she asked. It's not about her being the boss; it's about a cooperative and peaceful marriage.

You should tell the neighbor that you don't take any responsibility for the theft of a perfectly legal substance on your property.

Your wife should be able to discern the difference here.

I think this is the best one. The only thing you did wrong was to not bring the beer in like your wife asked you to. That is the only thing that should be apologized for. Just make sure you don't take the fall for the rest of it.
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I think this is the best one. The only thing you did wrong was to not bring the beer in like your wife asked you to. That is the only thing that should be apologized for. Just make sure you don't take the fall for the rest of it.
I don't plan on it (taking the fall for the rest), we'll see how she is feeling after we both get home from work. I'll problably be relaxed, she will be stressed out. Thats usually how things are.
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