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silvervan83

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My girlfriend was on vacation and when she got back she looked through the history and found brew babes. she is pretty p.o'd!!! any of you have this problem?
 
The Google browser, Chrome has a pretty good "incognito" mode where no history is tracked and no files are kept locally.
 
Look int K9 web protection if you want to block stuff like that. Is it a moral thing for her or a jealousy thing?

Either way, you are going to want to figure that out now. If you like looking at girls, and your girl doesnt like you looking at girls, there is some potential for major friction (and not the good kind :p) Not that it is any of my business.
 
My girlfriend was on vacation and when she got back she looked through the history and found brew babes. she is pretty p.o'd!!! any of you have this problem?

I'd say the bigger issue is her reading through the history in the first place. :drunk:
 
I'd say the bigger issue is her reading through the history in the first place. :drunk:

DING!! Totally correct. What do you think is worse, a dude looking at some pictures of "Brewing Babes" or a chick who is going through the history of the HWMBO's computer. Personally, I think there are some deep, underlying issues regarding her and her confidence. Trust is also a factor. How the hell can you trust someone that is going through your browsing history. What next, the cell phone, email, texts, etc... This is just the beginning bro. Don't be afraid of her wrath and back down. Let her know that you think her going through your browser's history is BS. She wants to see what you were up to while she was gone?? I'm sure she'd love it if you had a discreet camera with her on vacation, "Just to see what she was up to". Yeah, that would for sure fly with her I'm sure! :mug:
 
She went thru the history because she doesn't like me looking at porn, and when I admitted to looking at it while she was gone, she decided to check the history. And now she says "how am i even supposed to trust you on a homebrew website?" shes mad because she made pictures for me to look and says because I didnt look at those, Im not attracted to her.
 
She went thru the history because she doesn't like me looking at porn, and when I admitted to looking at it while she was gone, she decided to check the history. And now she says "how am i even supposed to trust you on a homebrew website?" shes mad because she made pictures for me to look and says because I didnt look at those, Im not attracted to her.
Ugh. Very, very bad sign. :(
 
Ugh. Very, very bad sign. :(

I dunno, not necessarily. My wife didnt like the fact that I looked at porn when we were first together. And the whole "you are looking at porn because you don't think I am attractive" thing is probably the #1 reason why some girls don't like their man looking at porn. It is definitely something that needs to be addressed, but just because she thinks like that doesn't mean she is crazy or that you can't have a great relationship with her.

I would tell her straight up though that you like it, are going to continue to do it, and that it has nothing to do with her looks. Something like 95% of men enjoy porn and I would say 99% of those men don't do it because they think their partner is unattractive.

I dunno, like i said, I had the same problem early on with my wife, and addressing it worked out quite well for me.
 
I dunno, not necessarily. My wife didnt like the fact that I looked at porn when we were first together. And the whole "you are looking at porn because you don't think I am attractive" thing is probably the #1 reason why some girls don't like their man looking at porn. It is definitely something that needs to be addressed, but just because she thinks like that doesn't mean she is crazy or that you can't have a great relationship with her.

I would tell her straight up though that you like it, are going to continue to do it, and that it has nothing to do with her looks. Something like 95% of men enjoy porn and I would say 99% of those men don't do it because they think their partner is unattractive.

I dunno, like i said, I had the same problem early on with my wife, and addressing it worked out quite well for me.
Good point. I focused more on the pictures of her and the subsequent 'you don't find me attractive' stuff. That sends up red flags to me. If a man can only find one woman attractive, something is amiss.
 
I would tell her straight up though that you like it, are going to continue to do it, and that it has nothing to do with her looks. Something like 95% of men enjoy porn and I would say 99% of those men don't do it because they think their partner is unattractive.

I dunno, like i said, I had the same problem early on with my wife, and addressing it worked out quite well for me.

+1

I had issues in the beginning with HWMO to some extent with this, and then I got the hell over it. Fact: men look at porn. She just needs to understand that, and you need to emphasize that HER pictures/videos/whatever are your favorite, but sometimes you've got to switch it up now and then.
 
Just be clear that it's just a tool for you to jerk off with and that you don't in fact want to have sex with these women. Her asking you to stop looking at it while you have high speed Internet is the equivalent of you asking her to never use the vibrator that she keeps under her pillow.

Edit: who would have guessed my 1000th post would be about masturbation :cool:
 
It's all well and good to have pics of the SWMBO, but once you've had the real thing, the pics just can't suffice anymore. Tell your SWMBO that if you got to have sex with one of those porn stars on a regular basis, you wouldn't look at porn with her in it anymore, but you'd still look at porn!

Just do what I did and get her to like watching it with you ;) Then just say you were looking for stuff to share with her :p
 
Yes it is something you need to talk to her about, but also try to see how you can help. Is looking at porn something that you need to do? I know that it's not a need for me.

I'm also unlike a lot of guys though, I have religious reasons not to look at porn, and they are reasons my wife agrees with. Now do I mess up sometimes? yeah... everyone does.
 
Tell her she's not allowed to look at any pretty flowers, or beautiful sunsets or you will become super jealous. Also, she is not allowed to be happy unless that happiness comes from or is caused by you. How dare she experience happiness from any other source???
 
We've had discussions about this in the past (along with other things), I told her it wasn't a NEED for me so no reason for me to look at it, that really helped our $ex life and had her doin things she never did before(like make pictures for me)........but I did end up looking at it, so maybe it is a need for me after all......but so is real $ex
 
I'm positive that she'll find the airing of the laundry in a public forum will be equally refreshing.

This thread is gonna be googleable in a few hours.


Think Man.
 
She went Through the history because she doesn't like me looking at porn, and when I admitted to looking at it while she was gone, she decided to check the history.

While we were dating swmbo checked the browser history once to find I'd been surfing myspace looking at pics of attractive girls...and as she is the self conscious of her appearance sort, there was briefly hell to pay. What helped me out of the dog house then was being able to assure her that I was not looking to step out on the side, just looking at pictures...and now that we've been married a couple years she's ok with the fact that I enjoy looking, but will not touch. Right after this I quickly learned how to edit the browser history.


And now she says "how am i even supposed to trust you on a homebrew website?"

If she doesn't want you to visit a home brewing website, all jokes about the importance of brewing aside, you'd be well justified in thinking she's asking too much. IMHO most successful relationships are about give and take, and if you really want to be with her, you'll find a way around it...or learn how to edit the browser history.
 
Agree with Jmulligan about the issue of her looking at the history for any reason.

Maybe you two should have a talk about it, and look at sites TOGETHER.;)
 
Wait what are you talking about. You have access to the Brew Babe Gallery section?
 
Opps on my part. Closed that down. That should not have been public.

But really your girl gives you pictures of her so you don't look at pictures of other girls? Bizarro World.
 
Decide now whether it's worth dealing with this woman's insecurities. I just don't get it... I mean, are you not supposed to watch Cinemax after 11:00 PM, either?
 
Yeah, I never understood that type of jeoulousy. Dont back down , she has got to get used to it. I mean its what we do. My wife knows I collect porn. I dont hide it, it's on a shared drive. If I caught her looking for it, I know its she is curious to see it too, not to punish me. Put it out in the open. Maybe she doesn't understand the context in how beautifully its displayed here at HBT. Good luck. Oh and if you need some porn..pm me;)
 
I'm positive that she'll find the airing of the laundry in a public forum will be equally refreshing.

This thread is gonna be googleable in a few hours.

Think Man.

This could make a bad situation a whole lot worse............:confused:
 
+1

I had issues in the beginning with HWMO to some extent with this, and then I got the hell over it. Fact: men look at porn. She just needs to understand that, and you need to emphasize that HER pictures/videos/whatever are your favorite, but sometimes you've got to switch it up now and then.


I would be more worried about your wife than you. She shows insecurity, I'm not sure if you do or not...I don't know enough about you.

However, an insecure woman is more likely to be a problem than a secure woman. My guess is, she needs some help. My ex is still super insecure even though I always thought she was super hot. Funny thing is, her insecurities led to behavior I found very unattractive. Her behavior creates the very situation she is afraid of.
 
Uhm, Brandon O, you know jmulligan's a woman, right? That should make her post have a little more sense.

Silvervan, this is the internet so I can say this easily; DTMFA! I had an ex that was the exact same way, would go through my history, see what I was up to online all the time. Also, she would call me at random to "check up on me", accuse me of various behaviors, and get very jealous about anyone I talked to with boobs. Oh and did she put out? HELL NO! Fun times, fun times.
 
Uhm, Brandon O, you know jmulligan's a woman, right? That should make her post have a little more sense.

Silvervan, this is the internet so I can say this easily; DTMFA! I had an ex that was the exact same way, would go through my history, see what I was up to online all the time. Also, she would call me at random to "check up on me", accuse me of various behaviors, and get very jealous about anyone I talked to with boobs. Oh and did she put out? HELL NO! Fun times, fun times.

Yes, I do know jmulligan is a woman, I wasn't responding to her. I was using what she said and building on it for the OP. Sorry about the confusion.
 
My friend's wife (whom he just married) gave him **** the other day for looking at a SI Swimsuit Issue. :rolleyes: Major jealousy/self-esteem/insecurity issues.

jmulligan hit it on the head, as did the_bird. To each his own but I wouldn't get wrapped up in that headache.
 
my SWMBO doesn't drink beer, but she helps me make it!
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