Thanks for the clarifications on the DME and LME. I will be prepared next time. Plus I want to look at my sparge/second runnings process. I drained it off pretty fast after a 10-min rest. Need to read up on that.
Draining slower will make some bit of difference. If you don't believe it, drain fast. Then wait 10 more minutes, and see how much more wort comes out.
You could also try double batch sparging, which is what I do. Just split the sparge into two equal quantities. When I have measured this, the second sparge is still at or above 1.01.
Just a comment on adding LME/DME (and yes, I quoted 35 pnts wrong above): This is kind of like adding a couple extra lbs of base malt (at 60% eff, which is about where you are at), it's going to throw off your recipe grain ratios. For minor tweaks, not an issue, but to get from 1.036 to 1.044, it's not insignificant. You'll still have good beer, it just won't be the same. Really depends on your goal, so I won't say right or wrong. You could also just order a couple extra lbs of the base malt with each kit, which might be cheaper.
I would try to get your efficiency up a bit. Supplement DME for now if you want to hit X gallons at Y gravity, but it shouldn't be too difficult to get from 60% to 70-75, which is where most of the kits target. Change one thing, calculate, change another, calculate. Other things which may or may not help, turn the manifold slots down if they are up. Mash longer if the crush was poor. Make sure you're not losing temperature, and they are accurate (I had a probe die and found out the hard way). Keep making beer. someone will drink it.