Men always pay for sex, one way or another. At least at the BunnyRanch you know what you're getting for the money. You're young, you'll learn. Diversions for the missing relationship are difficult, but necessary. It may be tempting, and a lot on this particular forum would disagree with me, but don't increase your drinking habits. The gym always works for me - its good for you, lets you sleep better, you're doing something constructive rather than destructive, and there's always a ton of women there. Make a list of things that you always wanted to do, but maybe couldn't because you were in a relationship. It will be liberating. Try a new sport. I've been kiteboarding for a few years(started after the divorce) and it is extremely addicting, the comaraderie is like no other, and again - there are always chicks hanging out at the beach. And it's exercise, you're outside - What could be better? I took some home brew to the beach for the inevitable after riding beer break and my friends thought it was great. Now that's even better.