Cheesefood said:
Suspended from school three times before he's two is hardly braggable.
Your son sounds just like mine was at that age. He was suspended several times at that age, same kind of behavior problems - biting kids. The teachers tried moving him to a higher aged class at first just like they're trying with yours.
He was kicked out of every nursery school and day care in town, until he started kindergarten - and then most days he was sent home before lunch time.
We just didn't really know what to do about his behavior because he wanted to play with the other kids, but he just couldn't seem to figure out how to play with them and get along.
He had problems in first grade as well.
Eventually we discovered that he has Asperger's Syndrome, and while it was initially shocking and sad to learn that he had that, between his therapy and medication he's now doing really well in school. He's in the 5th grade, an all A student, in school chorus, and anchors his schools daily CCTV news program.
I would never think to diagnose someone else's kid over the internet, I'm not a doctor or a health care professional of any kind at all. But I am a parent who's been through exactly what you're going through with the biting and behavior problems at preschool, and I've talked to many other parents with kids that have Aspberger's/Autism. More than 1 in 150 kids has some form of Autism these days, so just keep that in mind if his behavior doesn't turn out to be just a phase he grows out of - your story sounds all to familiar and autism is very common. Its frightening, but its not the end of the world. You wouldn't believe how many parents I've heard make comments almost exactly like your post.
Well I'm not saying thats the problem with your son or anything, all I mean to say is keep that in mind and maybe mention it to your pediactrician or family doctor and see what they have to say about it. If it turns out your son does have some kind of Autism spectrum disorder, the sooner you and your family learn about it - the better prepared you are to make sure his rights at school are protected and he gets the treatment, help, and assistance he needs.
Good luck to you, I hope it all turns out ok. Give your son a hug from me.