I'd look at the small beer as a bitter, probably in the ordinary or special gravity.
The way I do it is set my mash thickness such that my first runnings will be the entire big beer preboil volume (of course, without going over 2.5qts per pound). For giggles, let's say 20 pounds of grain, 40qts of strike. After losing about a half quart per pound of grain to absorption, you'd run off about 7.5 gallons which is about right for a 2 hour boil.
Then sparge with about 6.5 gallons and use that runoff as your small beer.
In software, I setup two recipe files with the same grainbill. In the first, I set efficiency to 60%. In the second, I set it for 25% which is approximately what your small beer OG will end up as. Once I do my mash/lauter, I tweek my hop schedule on the fly in the software.