Originally Posted by Hogshead
Wow, $20 to get poked fun of! What great idea...
<lots of stuff you already read>
...And as for YooperBrew, being one of the few ladies on this forum I suppose sucking up to her is pretty pointless, she's probably used to it by now. Did you at least enjoy the effort???
I think I am undoubtedly going to be in the extreme minority, but I am comfortable there. I honestly don't see what was so egregious about this post. Up to this point in the thread, everyone was chumming with him except for two things. 1. he was being blasted for not being a paying member, which I think is out of line. One's finances are one's own business. Period. I think he was taking that attack in good stride. 2. some misplaced humor with a definition for brown nose, for which he was called out on, and again, he took it in good stride (although genius probably wasn't the best word to pick unless meant seriously in regards to Yuri)
Clearly, the comment about Yoop was his undoing. When I read it, I thought it was only slightly misguided, but based on a reasonable observation that there are very few women around here, and female moderator may very well be regarded as a queen of sorts in that situation. Not really funny, but, most importantly, it did offend Yooperbrew, who made that clear. Here is where I am uncomfortable with what happened. He is immediately threatened with a ban, and then banned with no further posts from him. Maybe he was about to apologize. If there were deleted posts that I didn't see, or nasty PM's that weren't mentioned, then all this is moot, but it seems a bit heavy handed based on what I can see.
I also disagree with the party analogy. I see it as more of a community. At a party, if you're out of line, yeah, you should just leave. In a community, the rules of interaction are more vague, you will have a much wider assortment of people with different backgrounds, and I think it is appropriate to let people know when they are getting out of line, and give them a chance to amend their ways, or at least explain themselves.
Maybe I'm over reacting and the guy was just a jerk, but mightn't this have have gone down differently if the post after the one quoted was more like, "hey buddy, if you don't want to pay, that's fine, but your tone is coming off as a bit "jerkish" by the local standards, and I really think you offended Yooperbrew, who is a very cool person. Was that your intent? I should warn you that personal attacks and offensive behavior can result in being banned."
I am not trying to stir up the bees nest, but I am interested in better understanding the nature of this community.
If this is more of a party, it's probably good for me to know that.
Finally, let me make it very clear that, despite his being geographically close to me, I do not know Hogshead in any way shape or form.