"Students are not allowed to defend themselves when they are attacked"

**kjung** · 02-04-2009, 09:10 PM

I had to go to my daughter's school today because of a fight that she was involved in.
It seems that a couple of guys in her art class didn't like the fact that my daughter was wearing a Walter Payton jersey, and started giving her crap about it.
When my daughter told them to, in essence, pi$$ off, they got angry, cornered her, and one boy grabbed her, poured India Ink on her jersey, and then shoved her into the wall.
Keep in mind, these two boys are 16 & 17, both 6' plus, and both varsity football players. My daughter is 14, about 5'2", and MAYBE 125 lbs. And a Black Belt.
She then did what she was trained to do. She kicked one of them in the groin and took out the other's knee, and then punched both of them in the face, bloodying both of their noses. Also keep in mind that ALL of this happened while the teacher was in the classroom, with 10 other students.

When I got to the school, it was my daughter and myself, the principal, dean of students, both boys and their parents, along with the football coach and the Athletic Director, both of whom I've butted heads with when I coached Pop Warner for the town, and the school decided that they wanted to use the program as a feeder program.

I was told that my daughter was going to be given an out-of-school suspension for one week, for fighting back. Both boys finally admitted their part in the altercation, including the fact that they attacked my daughter, but yet my daughter was going to be given the exact same punishment that they were.

To make an already long story short, after threatening to bring my lawyer, who just happens to be my daughter's uncle, to the next board meeting and bringing the local media with us, I was able to get her punishment switched to an IN-school suspension, and both boys are suspended from any athletics for the rest of the year, along with having to replace her Payton jersey.

All of this, because my daughter defended herself.

I guess the proper procedure, when a kid is being assaulted in school is to drop to the floor, curl up, and just take the beating.

**BierMuncher** · 02-04-2009, 09:15 PM

Good for her.

That story gives me goose bumps. (the part about her kicking their @ss that is).

Unfortunately schools do take an "all parties are guilty" approach to altercations. Good for you for standing your ground.

**dataz722** · 02-04-2009, 09:15 PM

Gotta love our society anymore.

bernerbrau · 02-04-2009, 09:19 PM

In my grade school, the "proper" response to bullying was to tattle.

Good on your daughter for sticking up for herself. You can bet if I have kids they're taking self-defense classes. Especially if anyone's hatin' on the Bears...

**GilaMinumBeer** · 02-04-2009, 09:19 PM

And now, I doubt even the teachers will give her any trouble.

I forget, what exactly is an "In School" suspension? Does that mean she can't go home?

**Laughing_Gnome_Invisible** · 02-04-2009, 09:26 PM

All through your story I was looking for the biased slant towards your daughter. You know, the little clue that hints that she was somehow responsible for this ****, but as a parent you were too blind to see it......There wasn't even an inkling of that, no matter how hard i looked.

Kudos to your girl. Ignore the PC crap and get on with things just as you are doing already, and all will be right for you and your own.

**kjung** · 02-04-2009, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by GilaMinumBeer

And now, I doubt even the teachers will give her any trouble.

I forget, what exactly is an "In School" suspension? Does that mean she can't go home?

LOL, no, I THINK that just means that she can't go to school dances, etc.

You should have seen the looks on the administration's faces, after they said that if this happens again, she'll be out of school for two weeks, and I told my daughter that if this happens again, she'd better make it worth her time !

Donasay · 02-04-2009, 09:29 PM

I think the I'll embarrass you in the media threat probably had the most to do with it. Nothing like word getting out that a little girl beat up 2 large football players, that is great for the reputation of the program.

ScottyT · 02-04-2009, 09:30 PM

Bravo to your girl!

Need to send out a bulliten to every kid in the school about how the two football players got their asses handed to them by a girl half their size. I guess the whole school probably knows already...

Boerderij_Kabouter · 02-04-2009, 09:31 PM

This made my day in several ways.

1. Way to go for your daughter! You must be good parents to have raised a daughter who refuses to be daunted.

2. Way to go for your daughter! So many black belts are just paper holders who can't do anything and make a bad name for martial arts. I bet those two meatheads will think twice next time they decide to assault a woman! Training well used.

3. Way to go dad! I think standing up to pressure from the athletics department takes guts. Way to stand up for your daughter when she was being unjustly punished.

I am really glad you posted this. Three cheers for you and your daughter!

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