Buy you a drink?

Sir Humpsalot · 02-17-2008, 06:59 AM

I am 30 years old. I have never been considered attractive by anyone's standards.

SWMBO is a doll. I have been told countless times that she is out of my league (just like all my passed SWMBO's were out of my league). I dunno what it is, I just find cute girls who happen to have the specific mental defect of them liking me. I can't explain it, it just is what it is. Now here's where it gets difficult...

I make $11 an hour and I am paying off grad school loans. If I go to a club with SWMBO and her friends, I buy her friend(s) a drink, I buy all of her drinks, and I buy mine. I'm out $60-$100. However, if she goes to clubs with her friends, guys buy all their drinks and she doesn't spend a dime.

Now, that's just the way the world works, right? But hold on.. here's where it gets weird....

SWMBO went out with her friends tonight and I didn't feel like puttering around the house, so I hopped in my car and went to my favorite brew pub. I ordered a beer, I drank it. A dude came in and was confused by the choices, so I chatted beer with him for a bit, suggested he order a house Pilsner, and he bought me a beer.

Now, being a heterosexual male, there was a seat between us at the bar. A cute girl came up, sat between us, and she bought me a shot of tequila. Then a second shot. We chatted a bit, had a few laughs, I ordered another pint, drank it, then I paid my $8 tab (plus tip) and walked out of there having had 2 shots of tequila and 3 beers... feeling good for less than ten bucks!!!

Now guys... here's the thing... I am NOT good looking. I'm not GQ. I'm not some Steve McQueen or James Dean looking guy. I'm kinda goofy looking. But when I go to the bar alone, people just come up to me and enjoy my company!!! And, when SWMBO is alone, well obviously, guys hit on her and buy her drinks as well.

I try not to be jealous of her. I trust her. She drinks for free at the bars.. and I drink for nearly free... we just can't drink together, because then we pay full price and we can't afford that.

I don't know exactly what I'm trying to say.... The thing is, both of us have a lot of bills and neither of us have a lot of money. I can't afford to take her out drinking with her friends, so we go out separately. And honest to god, it's just a financial thing. I wish I got as many freebies with her as I do without her... and vice versa. It's just weird. Whenever I go out, I feel like a celebrity. I get drinks all the time and it's pretty much the norm for me. I am sort of bragging, but at the same time, I wish I could go out with SWMBO.

I am home now. I had enough. I came home. I'm sure she'll be home shortly. Am I crazy for thinking this is ok? She's younger than me by 7 years and I don't want to interfere with her fun. Hell, I have fun too. I just wish I had enough money to take her out on the town...

Being poor sucks.

Sir Humpsalot · 02-17-2008, 07:02 AM

On the bright side, the friend she goes drinking with has double-D's. Maybe I'll talk SWMBO into not minding too much if I motorboat them tonight....

Holy shizz, I'm druck!!!!

**Orfy** · 02-17-2008, 07:06 AM

I've read the post but not sure what comment to make.
I don't like moving on from a thread with no replies without commenting.

So.

Will have to do.

Sir Humpsalot · 02-17-2008, 07:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by orfy

I've read the post but not sure what comment to make.
I don't like moving on from a thread with no replies without commenting.

So.

Will have to do.

Thanks, orfy! Love ya man!!! I dunno. I feel like the luckiest guy on earth. SWMBO is the bestest. I wish I had a million to spend on her.

As it is, I never go out with her because I know we can't afford to spend the money. I go alone and get comped stuff (or folks buy me stuff). She goes alone, and guys buy her stuff (cuz she has nice knockers). We go together and we spend too much... so we just never go out much anymore.

It sucks... but I know there are worse problems to have... It puts a big smile on my face when I think about how lucky I am.... I just wish I had more than eleven bucks an hour to spend on her...

Edit to add.... And that's why I am building a brew tower, and a kegerator. I want to have 8 beers on tap so I can have people over, have something for everybody, be the hit of the party, and not have to spend a lot of money. I'm tired of having to go out alone to get chicks to buy me drinks...

EvilTOJ · 02-17-2008, 12:34 PM

Sir Humpsalot, so what you're saying is, is that your hot wife gets free drinks and has a good time, and you go out, get free drinks and have a good time, but you can't go to the bar together because then no one buys you drinks?

You wanna trade sets of problems?

Seriously, I know how you feel. When I was SWMBO'd, I always wanted to take her out for the best time ever. Didn't always happen, but the desire was there. There won't ever be a time when you feel like you take her out enough, or spend enough money/time on her. And that's OK! If she's a keeper, she'll understand that your old, broke ass can't take her out all the time, and she's having some fun on the cheap. Plus she does need to have her own life. I don't know what other hobbies you have besides brewing, but to her, brewing is part of you having *your* own life.

Now, about this hot friend of hers ......

malkore · 02-17-2008, 03:41 PM

doesn't sound like SWMBO has a mental defect....sounds like she just recognizes a guy who's not an asshole.

and the chica who bought you those shots....same deal. "there's a guy who's not gonna slip me a roofie-colada"

**Yuri_Rage** · 02-17-2008, 03:54 PM

I hang with a group of guys who share the common bond of enjoying a good drink. On occasion, we've discussed what brought us together as a group. We've come to the conclusion that one of the defining characteristics of our "clique" is that most of us are the sort of guys that can walk into any bar, and other people want to have a drink with us (i.e., approachable, fun, good-hearted folks). Perhaps you're just one of "us."

(damn, that sounds a lot more narcissistic than I intended...oh, well...I think the message is clear)

**the_bird** · 02-17-2008, 07:25 PM

Methinks the guy and the girl were really a couple looking for a, uh... playmate. The only question is whether he was just going to hide in the closet and watch, or if he wanted to be part of the fun...

**HenryHill** · 02-17-2008, 08:59 PM

I may have stuck around if a hot chick was buying me drinks. Hell, she coulda been near ugly and I'd accept. But hot woulda probably kept there for a bit longer.

The guy-I probably would not have hung out long to out what his deal was.

'Non-threatening/approachable' is a good characteristic to have. For a guy.

For chicks, just being female sexed buys a lot drinks.

Don't feel like you owe her friends drinks. Trading paying for rounds is one thing, let her friends 'earn' their own...

Many people just are friendly with nothing much to do and like to chat, so it's easy finding generous company in a bar. Many are looking for something.

superfluent · 02-17-2008, 10:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by malkore

doesn't sound like SWMBO has a mental defect....sounds like she just recognizes a guy who's not an asshole.

and the chica who bought you those shots....same deal. "there's a guy who's not gonna slip me a roofie-colada"

+1

I'm blessed with a SWMBO that is really good looking (even with Swedish standards) *and* she's smart so as far as I'm conserned, I'm "all set".

She and her girlfriends go out for a drink from time to time and they often refere to "the swarm" -the douchebags constanty circling around them trying their best to get laid. My SWMBO and her friends actually go to gay bars just to get some peace and quiet, to enyoy a drink or two and just chill after work.

The moral of the story? Smart, beautiful chicks like interesting guys. Or...go to gay bars and you'll find the hottest chicks with their guard down

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