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Even after half a bottle of really good wine and two Westwleteren life really sucks because I'm sepparating:-(.

We've been "common law" for the last 13 years (we met in collage). What sucks the most is that we've allways been and still are really, really good friends and we've never really been fighting a lot -even as we are sepparating. Still we've came to the conclusion that at this point in life, it's the least bad thing to do. We've become more friends than what's healty for a relationship.

I've never thought that parting from your girlfirend would going to be such a big deal once you've decided to do it but god damn, this is by far the most agonizing, stressful experience we've ever experienced in our lives (and we've gone through a fair deal of stressful situations in our lives, beleave me).

Right now life really sucks for both of us. We're hardly sleeping at all and we're both pretty much running on our rims emotionally, but still we somehow know that this must be done. Since we've allways been concidered "the perfect couple" we've had to explain each and every one of our friends how and why it didn't work out which really gets to you in the long run. On top of it all we both have pretty demanding jobs (she's an international stock broker and I run my own company) so we're both really pushing the outside of the envelope to keep it from getting ugly.

My second best friend (after my soon to be ex-girlfriend) said that there are people that have actually survived sepparation and managed to get their lives together but right now I have a hard time beleaving him.

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Wow. 13 years. I wish I had some sort of encouraging words to make you feel better, but I cant say that I do. Just remember the old saying: time heals all wounds. Life may be the pits right now (I can only imagine), but it will get better. Keep your chin up.

McKBrew

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Hang in there Henrik. Maybe another couple of beers will start to heal you, just don't let it go too far. Hope things get better.

JustDave

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That sucks man.

It's hard to feel positive about the future when you're feeling so bad now, but you'll make it through this.

superfluent

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Actually, I can't remember when I had so few beers (or any other alcohol btw) as I've had in the last few month. Somehow I just subcontiously figured that getting drunk because of this is just escaping the reality of life. It kind of feels like ripping a band aid -it's just that we've been ripping i 10sq mile band aid for the last 8 weeks...

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superfluent

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like your avatar...

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brewt00l

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It does suck


The suck fades over time and before too long, it won't be so bad. You just have to hang in 'till then.

superfluent

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Yes, right now it sucks goats *ss. Wirth the "glass half full" goggles on, it's the least bad solution right now. Still I'ts a rough ride of almost epic proportions for both of us but hopefully we'll both get somethig positive out of this.

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superfluent

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Thanks. 13 years...it's still 12,5 insanely great years. All we can say is that carrear isn't worth jack **** if it interfeeres with your relationship. In this context, "You don't know what you're missing until its gone" really gets a meaning.

...Just a few words from the trenches.

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I was married for 16 years and ended up getting divorced. Even though it seemed like the worst thing ever at the time, in retrospect it was best for both of us. We are both happier and in good relationships now (it's about 9 years later) and I can honestly say that the pain we lived through then was worth it in the end. I know it doesn't really help much now, but you will someday not hurt when you think about it. I promise.

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