also the beer in primary will look a lot darker because its a larger volume, and there's floating particles of hops and yeast to further cloud it and make it seem darker.
once its done, clarified and then in a pint glass, it will likely be a bit lighter.
going AG will give you more control over the final color than extract-only brewing. you could also do partial mashes and top off with extra light DME, in addition to late extract addition. You'll come aweful close to the same color as an AG brew of the same recipe.
Primary: English Mild
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Bottled: MOAM, Braggot, Raspberry Melomel, Merlot, Apfelwein, Pyment, Sweet mead, Cabernet
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