Work on an efficiencey of 70% for your first brew.
Use
www.recipator.com to work out what grain you need for the volume.
Very roughly you'll get around 1036-1040 per lbs/gallon from base malt.
So.....
lets work on dead easy set of figures...
A preboil wort of 1040 and you want to 4 gallon
so that should be
4 Lbs of grain at 40points per pound = 160 gravity points / 4 gallon = 40 gravity points or 1040.
if you have 4 gallon 160 thats 1040
But if you reduce the 160 gravity points to 3.5 gallon
Thats a gravity of 160/3.5 45 or 1045.
But that's working on one 100% effieciency.
At 70% you'll get maybe 25 points per pound based on 1036 from the malt.
So. you'd need 6.5lbs of grain to get the same. (160/25)
I hope that makes sense.
If not just let recipitator/beersmith or promash do it for you.