I know how it goes. The first few years of our marriage were very hard on doors and walls around here. I grew up in a small family (2 kids), where yelling was a very bad thing, she grew up in a large family (11 kids) where you had to yell just to hear each other at the dinner table. When she gets worked up about something, in a good or a bad way, she gets very loud. It took me a while to learn to deal with that.
Luckily, I have never struck another person in anger in my lift. Self defense, yes, but not out of anger. She would yell, I would punch the wall, and then she would yell even more. I have left some of the less noticeable damage and not repaired it, as it is a constant and subtle reminder to keep my cool.
As to the cell phone, we have a HUGE picture window in the loving room, and if it ever broke, I think I would have to take out a second mortgage to get it repaired. For that reason, I have had a rule in this house since the day we moved in that no one ever is allowed to throw anything in the house. One night, about six months into the marriage, she got mad at me and threw the toothpaste tube at me. I side stepped, and it hit the wall. That made her madder, so she threw the dental floss at me also. I side stepped that one too. Took that argument while to cool down.