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Old 02-24-2012, 07:23 PM   #1
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I have a friend that I have been brewing with quite a bit for the last year and a half. I have a 1bbl system so I let him in for half of a batch about every other brew day. This way I get to brew more often and he gets to brew as well. It actually works out good and I enjoy it. What bothers me is that lately, he has been bring over people for brewery tours to see "OUR" brewery. I don't mind the tours as I always welcome beer discussion and love to see the look on peoples faces (especially BMC drinkers) when they try my homebrew. What bothers me is that he tells everyone that it's our brewery even though he didn't purchase or help fabricate one single piece of equipment (although a friend of his did donate the kegerator when he moved out of town). He buys his own ingredients and pitches in on sanitizer/utilites, but that's it. Now I know it's not that big of a deal and I haven't called him out on it, but it still erks me. If I was brewing on a friends rig and took someone over to see it, I don't think I would refer to it as ours. Our beer perhaps, but not our brewery. Thoughts?

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Old 02-24-2012, 07:31 PM   #2
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I don't know... I guess I could see how it urks you, but I would love to have a friend who enjoyed the brewing process and split batches with me. I would say most of your guests see that it's in your house, and since it's there, and since you know what your doing more than he does, they probably naturally assume it's yours and don't actually think that you two "own" everything together. I guess it would bother me too if I spent a ton of time buying and building for someone else to take credit, but I can also see it from the perspective that you have a friend who enjoys this hobby with you, and that in itself is pretty awesome. I would try to focus on the positive.

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Old 02-24-2012, 07:42 PM   #3
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And that's why I haven't said anything. I don't want to spoil it for him and I do enjoy having someone to brew with.

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Old 02-24-2012, 07:48 PM   #4
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Of course when he gives those tours, you could gladly give a little more history of the brewery, like "when I bought this... and when I built this..."

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Old 02-24-2012, 08:00 PM   #5
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Everyone is always immediately taken in by the huge kettles and don't really pay much attention to anything else.

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Old 02-24-2012, 09:57 PM   #6
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Everyone is always immediately taken in by the huge kettles and don't really pay much attention to anything else.
sounds like guys and a well endowed woman.....
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Old 02-24-2012, 10:11 PM   #7
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I get irked pretty easily by stuff like this also. It's that indescribable level of respect that I feel every man should understand and adhere to. I'd talk to him about it. I get pretty peeved the minute I notice that someone has become too comfortable with my taps and put an end to it right away.

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Old 02-24-2012, 11:09 PM   #8
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You can gently "correct" him like JtheB suggested. "Those kettles? I got a great deal on these and after I bought them, I got this and that. It was kinda hard to put all this together, but I'm glad to have a brew day partner these days."

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Old 02-25-2012, 02:25 AM   #9
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My brother is the same way. He likes to call my rig our rig. erks my wife more than me because she knows all the research money and labor I have put into brewing and he rides my coat tails even though he hasn't even offered suggestions to the setup.

I just do what others have suggested here. Casually correct him when he takes credit and sneak in that it is my brain child not his. I have never blatantly called him out. Ha the wife has been close a few times though.

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Old 02-25-2012, 12:03 PM   #10
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I encourage my friends to treat my system like it's theirs, aside from modifying it permanently. One friend came over and kept asking permission to use each component or tool (mash paddle, liquid level stick, etc). I snapped at him (with a friendly tone), "it's your f-ing brewery, do what you got to do." If he was showing off stuff, I don't think I would mind it too much if he referred to it as "ours". Personally I like having a friend around to brew with, so even if something like that were irritating to me, I would probably just let it go. My schedule limits how much I brew, so as long as my system is producing beer, I'm happy. OP's situation may differ from mine though.

Kind of off topic, but the guy wont even take credit for beers we brew together, since I came up with the recipe and bought the grain. Helping to lift a full mash tun or boil kettle is more than enough to warrant co-brewer credits IMO.

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