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Just been a $hitty weekend. My cousin decided to take the cowards way out and hung herself in the basement with nylon cord on Sunday.

You know we all go thru $hitty times, and its probably crossed all of our minds at one point in time. Man i can just tell you this is the ultimate smurf you to your family and friends. We werent close as adults but were when we were younger. Just shocking to see the devastation this has brought down on our family. Just the ulitmate $hitty act.

Anyway not looking for pitty or anything just saying if this ever crosses your mind, dont do it. Its the worst thing you could ever do to your friends, family, and loved ones.

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Sorry to hear that man.
Tough one to try and understand.

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True... Had a buddy do the same. Well when heard why.(job/drugs/life) I didn't go to the funeral. Left the wife and a little one, What a A$$

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My uncle did it in my father's basement while he was in the hospital dying of lymphoma. Two deaths in one month was not good for my family.

My condolences.

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Yeah she leaves behind a husband and a 16yr an 17yr daughter. Talk about just smurfing your kids lives.

I feel sad for her, but at the same time i would just like to slap her silly. How anyone could do this to their family is just so out of my grasp of thinking. Just makes me as mad as sad.

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Sorry man. I had an uncle who did this on Christmas Day a few years back and I, too, just wanted to kick the hell out of him for it. He had three daughters, and not surprisingly, it seriously messed with his daughters. If you're close enough (locationally), try to be there for your cousins kids/husband.

Sorry again for your family's loss.

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My cousin blew his brains out with a shotgun some years back. Totally agree it is devastating to the family and friends.

That said, I never railed on him (or in memory of) as a coward or taking the easy way out or whatever. Something is wrong upstairs for someone to do this. Clearly they wouldn't if they were of sound mind. So, rather than rail on them for being a coward I feel sorry for him too that suicide seemed to be the only way out of what, apparently, is perceived to be a living hell.

Often suicide is a result of depression. Consider thinking about what you can do to recognize the symptoms and maybe, just maybe, help get someone the help they need, rather than curse them as weak and cowardly after it's too late.

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I agree it's the cowards way out but have been told by those who work with folks who have thought of suicide that in their mind, it's the best thing to do. Does that mean their mental or just found a way to justify they selfish act.
I can maybe see if you were terminal but to me, there's always hope for a good side where with suicide, there is nothing but un-hope.
Sorry for your loss.

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A friend of mine attempted suicide when we were in the 5th grade. Ate an entire bottle of tylenol. Parents found him, rushed him to the hospital and saved him. They found out that he did it because he felt they didn't love him.

So they bought him a gold watch.

And found him hanging in the basement a couple months later. Not sure what there even is to say about that one.


Fast forward 25 years. Buddy of mine had just gotten home from Iraq, and had just destroyed his marriage (long story, short version he cheated). Wife threw him out, he was renting an apartment across town. Struggling with PTSD and his family falling apart, he confided in us that he spent one whole night sitting on the foot of his bed with a bottle of whiskey, staring down the barrel of his .45 thinking "Well, why the hell NOT?" Thankfully he pulled through, got the help he needed, and is leading a relatively normal life, now happily married to his mistress.

All of that being said, I agree wholeheartedly with the OP. We all have bad days. Hell, we all have bad weeks or even months. Put your big boy pants on and deal with it, don't leave your family wondering if there was anything they could have done to help or why you decided to take the easy way out. If you need help, ASK FOR IT.

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Forgot.... definitely, with this event being so close to Christmas, the kids are going to need some help in years to come. Be there for them any way you can.