Rosie75

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So the wife told me today that I don't need to drink beer every time I brew. Wtf, isn't this part of the brewers code, lol, anyway ended up a fight

m_c_zero

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Seems to be a recurring theme around here unfortunately...

g-love

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No offense to you and i'm in no way judging your relationship, but I (personally) cannot imagine living with someone who "tells" me anything. I see this kind of thing popping up a lot on hbt.

If I want to drink, I drink. If I want to buy something, I buy it. If I want to go somewhere, I go. The thing is, I extend those same freedoms to my girl.

I see those types of comments made between significant others as a form of passive control and i'm not really into that, from either side.

Just my $.02.

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Darwin18

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Did you injure yourself or damage your property? Were you pretty much useless for the rest of the day, following brewing?

Instead of talking to us you should be talking to her about this.

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benco

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+1

half_whit

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+1 to this. I'd even go one step further and say talk *with* her about it. Seems to me if it's starting arguments, it's worth the time.

Probably just a sign of my youth, but I could never imagine thinking of my lady as a ball and chain. ...do nag som'n fierce though don't they! Everyone's gotta vent sometimes!

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JonM

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Time to start smoking cigars while brewing.

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stpug

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I think your wife is absolutely correct, you don't NEED to..... hopefully, you just WANT to.

Seriously though, I usually brew starting early in the morning and am finished a bit after noon. I can't recall a time I was drinking beer before finishing on these brew days - coffee, yes, but not beer. I have also done a batch or two in the late evening and I'm sure I was drinking some brew during those sessions; but not so much that I didn't have my wits about me.

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OrdinaryAvgGuy

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Been living with my wife 9 years now, married just a few months.

After saying "I do" I without a doubt, noticed the slow constrictor like control tactics begin to emerge.

I was warned by many about such behavior so I decided to nip it in the bud. Every time she attempted to control me, I tell her "stop trying to control me, I am capable of thinking and making decisions on my own."

Call me an a$$hole but I have no problem calling her out no matter where we are - in public, around family, around friends. She tried to bark authoritative commands at me once in front of her family and I quickly made an a$$ out of both of us. Hasn't happened since...

While I'm not perfect by any means, I never command her to do anything, especially in front of others. If I don't do it, you won't do it - it's mutual. If I want a beer, I don't yell "Hey woman, how bout getting me a brew" I'll walk to the fridge and get it myself.

There are however some instances where I give in because its not worth it. "Honey, can you not wear that ugly sweater out tonight" "okkkkay, yes dear...."

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kblankenship11

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Maybe we are just lucky but my relationship is the same. If i wanna drink a beer, smoke a cigar and piss of my back porch while I brew I can (although she'll probably roll her eyes at me...) If my girlfriend wants to go to yoga instead of watching a playoff game with me she can. If she demands something ridiculous to me I just laugh, same with her. If its a reasonable request we always accommodate eachother. That's the way its always been and we never argue.