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Old 07-14-2008, 05:10 PM   #21
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best wishes, hopefully something good will come of this.

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Old 08-13-2008, 07:52 PM   #22
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We had a hearing, during the pre-hearing meeting our case worker basically told her that she had no valid reason for doing what she did, and asked if we could resolve the issue without a judge. She was completely defiant and said that she would offer me nothing, so we went before the judge, I was actually quite happy to.

Judge said that he could give her up to 45 days in the county jail for her first offense, but stated that he doenst think he will see her in his courtroom again. Fined her $100 and gave me an extra (2) days of time with my son. Stated that she had no reason to do what she did that all of her excuses were meaningless. FINALLY some sort of justice.

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Old 08-13-2008, 08:17 PM   #23
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We had a hearing, during the pre-hearing meeting our case worker basically told her that she had no valid reason for doing what she did, and asked if we could resolve the issue without a judge. She was completely defiant and said that she would offer me nothing, so we went before the judge, I was actually quite happy to.

Judge said that he could give her up to 45 days in the county jail for her first offense, but stated that he doenst think he will see her in his courtroom again. Fined her $100 and gave me an extra (2) days of time with my son. Stated that she had no reason to do what she did that all of her excuses were meaningless. FINALLY some sort of justice.
Oh, I'm so glad to hear that! I always feel for parents who have a jerk for an ex who try to get their revenge through the kids. I have never said a bad word about/to my ex because I love my kids and they need a relationship with him. They will find out soon enough that he is not a reasonable man- but not from me. Good for you for doing all that you can to make your son feel valuable, loved, and not a part of the problem.
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Old 08-13-2008, 08:18 PM   #24
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Glad to hear things worked out in your favor. Enjoy the time with your boy.

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My prayers are with you and your son. It sounds like your ex is really making a mess of things. I am glad that the judge listened to reason. Good luck!

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Old 08-13-2008, 08:48 PM   #26
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Victory!!!

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Old 08-13-2008, 08:48 PM   #27
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Congratulations on a victory...but keep a close eye out.

Now that she knows "the world" is against her...she's likely to slip a bit further into psycho-ville and become more desperate in her actions.

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Old 08-13-2008, 08:49 PM   #28
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We had a hearing, during the pre-hearing meeting our case worker basically told her that she had no valid reason for doing what she did, and asked if we could resolve the issue without a judge. She was completely defiant and said that she would offer me nothing, so we went before the judge, I was actually quite happy to.

Judge said that he could give her up to 45 days in the county jail for her first offense, but stated that he doenst think he will see her in his courtroom again. Fined her $100 and gave me an extra (2) days of time with my son. Stated that she had no reason to do what she did that all of her excuses were meaningless. FINALLY some sort of justice.
Glad to hear it! In thinking about it. Why after all of the immaturity and nonsense she has shown the court would you not ask for sole custody? It seems she and the boyfriend are proving to be somewhat unfit in the care and well being of a child, granted I'm not the judge, I do see this as somewhat plausible.
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Old 08-13-2008, 09:10 PM   #29
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Congratulations on a victory...but keep a close eye out.

Now that she knows "the world" is against her...she's likely to slip a bit further into psycho-ville and become more desperate in her actions.
Bingo. Don't wanna rain on your parade, brother, but now is the BIGGEST time to keep your eyes peeled.

Make sure all communication lines with your kiddo are open and ask him lots of open-ended questions about his life. Don't go digging, but let him know he is free to talk to you about what's going on with his mom.

Be relaxed no matter what your ex says to him about you...laugh it off in his presence, even if it feels like someone's twisting a hot poker in your nads as you do so...say things like "your mom gets some weird ideas about stuff sometimes, buddy, do you REALLY think your daddy'd do/say something like that? ...now, you been watchin' the Olympics?" Your job is to be his rock, his touchstone for reality. She'll be spinnin' her own version of reality, but if your kiddo has a lick of sense, he'll be looking for a second opinion--if not now, then later.

As the wicked stepmother to three kiddos who have the Borderline Personality Disordered mom, I KNOW of which I speak. Oh, and to add to my credentials a bit, I'm also a child and adolescent psychiatrist so I deal with this on a professional level EVERYDAY. It sucketh large for all involved, but if you remain steady, it will pay off in the end.
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Old 08-13-2008, 09:34 PM   #30
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Nice. Half of that $100 fine should go to you for the wasted gas and to the courts for wasting their time. It looks as if justice worked this time.

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