I believe I can't steep oats to get conversion and would need to mash correct? What would I mash oats with to get conversion in a gluten free beer?
I am planning to add 8oz malto dextrin for mouthfeel so maybe I don't need the oats since they are hard to convert and I just added them for mouthfeel anyways?
You're not really using the oats for conversion, you want them more for flavour, mouth feel and head retention. The Malto will give you all of those except flavour. I'd say do both, but maybe the heavyweights will have better advice for you
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