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Old 02-14-2012, 03:39 AM   #11
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Im sorry to hear of your loss.

I for one turn to brewing when life turns to ****. It has helped me through a divorce, BK, a few breakups with girlfriends as well.

I have a little girl too, and shes so into what I do when I brew. She always talks about the little buggies (yeast) that make beer. Her favorite part is smashing the smack pack and seeing it grow. Shes always around when I brew and I love that time.

Try involving her with it and see how great that experience will be.

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Old 02-15-2012, 04:12 PM   #12
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thanks all.

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Old 02-15-2012, 04:23 PM   #13
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Brewing and cooking are Zen for me. I can forget the troubles of the day or the week and concentrate on something that is stressfree.

I also think that your daughter looks at you the same way you felt about your Mother. As others have said, take a break if you need to, but don't give it up. Someday you may decide that you want to brew again. I took a break for a bunch of years, but I came back and it is on a different level now than it was when I was much younger.

Peace to you Brewbrother.

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Old 02-15-2012, 05:06 PM   #14
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I was hit hard when my Grandma passed away many years ago. I was young and my first child was well on nigh to arriving. I'd always looked up to my grandma as a source of pride for what she did for others and as one example of what a good person can and should be.

Since my wife basically had to go to the hospital directly from the viewing, I didn't have time for much mourning or to get too depressed. I could not visit her for advice. I could only live by the example I got from her.

When my dad passed away a few years ago I realized even more that life is too short. Spend time with the kids. Teach them well and let them know you love them. Get them also involved in DOING THINGS! Everything is a learning experience and a loving experience. (Even if it's tough love!)

They won't always want to do the things you like doing, but they might!

The point is to be the example that you admired in someone else to them.

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Old 02-15-2012, 05:37 PM   #15
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Man thats a tough one right there. My father passed away in his mid 50's a month before my 29th birthday. Almost 2 years has gone by and I still think about him everyday. His passing is what actually got me into brewing. I needed some alone time and found that brewing really put me into that zen place I needed. To this day I usually brew at night when the kids are in bed and its nice and calm outside. Hang in there man, and tell your kids what an amazing grandma they had.

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Old 02-15-2012, 06:29 PM   #16
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Reading this thread is tough. I feel for anyone that has felt the pain of losing a parent. Especially when they are relatively young. My mother tragically died four years ago. Her birthday is this month. It's something you can't really ever get over, you just learn to accept it. You're mother is always your biggest fan. Carry on, and try to be happy. It's what she would want.

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Old 02-15-2012, 10:52 PM   #17
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I once lost interest in all the activities I enjoyed. Felt like nothing would be good again. It gets better. Hang in there.

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Old 02-15-2012, 11:38 PM   #18
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Man thats a tough one right there. My father passed away in his mid 50's a month before my 29th birthday. Almost 2 years has gone by and I still think about him everyday. His passing is what actually got me into brewing. I needed some alone time and found that brewing really put me into that zen place I needed. To this day I usually brew at night when the kids are in bed and its nice and calm outside. Hang in there man, and tell your kids what an amazing grandma they had.
My dad died over 20 years ago. I was also in my 20s. 22 years later, I STILL think about him every day.
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I know how you feel. I passed my passion for brewing to my sons and I hope when I go, they will brew up a big double ipa and toast to me!

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Old 02-16-2012, 01:08 AM   #20
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So take a break. When and if you get the brewing itch again your equipment and your LHBS will be waiting for you.
I agree, no reason to force it. Just relax, have someone else's homebrew :-) I have taken a couple of breaks over the years and came back later.
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