I personal favorite is Brew Brothers (http://www.brewbrothers.biz). They are friggin' awesome! They are located in Hillboro, Oregon, but they do ship. They have a huge malt and hop selection and their prices are hard to beat.
I have been using http://brooklynbrewshop.com/
they are very good, I emailed them with a question about my first brew and how I had to top up the fermenter because i didn't have enough wort, they emailed me back with a $10 coupon to try again.
They're as reasonably priced as anyone like Northern Brewer. I can't compare them to many others, but their kits are awesome and have very detailed instructions if you're new or just want a reminder. And of course the most important thing for me is the guys who own the place are awesome. Every time I've been there they've been more than welcoming, and they're incredibly fast at responding to emails.
I have not read the entire thread (it's floccin' long!), but I doubt they were listed. my favorite LHBS is Pour Brothers in Gillette, WY. Nate & AJ are great guys & willing to help any way they can. I miss that shop very much.
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