Definitely don't aerate, but I would save the starter for another batch and leave this one alone - for a big beer like that, 24-48 hours lag time isn't unusual.
The Fiesty(sic) Goat Brewery est. 2007 & Clusterfuggle Experimental Ales est. 2009
Planned: sLambic II, Flanders Red II
Primary: Fat Man Porter, Orange Blossom Mead, sLambic I
Secondary: Flanders Red I
Kegged: 3 different ciders, Janet's Brown, Barrel-aged Stout, Hallertau Blanc Pale Ale
Bottled: Flanders Red I