Hey everyone, sorry for thelack of replies. Work caught up with me for a little bit there and I am just getting back to the thread.
The beer is in secondary, so it isn't carbonated. It's also been either in primary or secondary since early february. I just finished dry hopping it with Amarillo and Citra. I hadn't tasted it for a few weeks and it's definitely not too roasty now. I did use Chocolate malt and Carafa III hoping it would give color without too much roast and it worked out fine. Just needed to relax and wait a bit.
Thanks for the comments, I think I'm going to forego the lactose.